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 in response to Starshine...   I will and thank you again

 in response to Starshine...   You are right, I will be ok. I have no idea of how, but I still have my faith. He lead me to it, he will guide me through it. Thank you so much for everything

 in response to Starshine...   I will. Good luck to you

 in response to Starshine...   My daughter is here in Alabama where she wll stay until she finish her last year of college. She will be in our home and I plan to come home as much as possible. When she finish her last year, if everything is going ok, this house will be one the market. I need to reach out to others, but I am so...cautious you might say. I do not trust people so easily. I will be ok. Some how, some way

 in response to Starshine...   For some odd reason, I do not think she was homeless. Close to it, but haven't made it. I will be ok some how, some way. Take care, smile and believe in yourself

 in response to Starshine...   I know it just get so hard. I am looking for a place to stay. I have a job already in st. Louis. I am waiting for my papers to be finalized and the board to set my pay rate. I do have my daughter, but she has to live her own life. I am wondering the same thing, how can I move without $ and it is not cheap. With deposit, first months rent and deposit for utilities those two things will run close to one grand if not more. I cannot stay with my friend, she is in another county and I leaving Alabama. I find it hard to trust alot of people. Like I mentioned before I have been burned and the scar has not fully healed. I keep telling myself if he lead you to it, he will guide you through it. That is my uplifting quote, my belief, inspiration and motivation which will help me find something. Again, thanks

 in response to Starshine...   Sweet? I don't know about that one for real. She was just, just I don't know how to explain it. I knew she needed help. She had twin boys with her which had on too small pants and coats which needed to be put in the garbage. She was so grateful and appreciative. I thought about the situation for hours, looked at my surroundings and started to count my blessings. If if come back in triple fold, I will be grateful. If it does not come back, I am still grateful because I know I made a difference and you never know what the next day will bring. I may have to ask her for a job, you never know.

 in response to Starshine...   Honestly, I have called and emailed so many people I do not know for sure. I will be calling again tomorrow morning. At least you have friends. I have been burned too many times by my so called friends, I handle my own by myself. I do have one person who has been there through thick and thin, but I hate to continue telling her of my problems when she has some of her own. I also have worked since a young age but I have gotten to this point: what is the use of reminding people when they are not interested and do not care. I will continue to pound the pavement, take more time on the phone and send more emails out. It's just so hard Starshine, so hard. I must believe in myself and I do, but receiving encouragement to continue is trying to get the best of me which right now is not very hard.

 in response to rachdawg...   No problem everyone need support in one way or the other. I am trying to find housing in another state which has been a huge problem so far. I am frustrated and so tired. I am not the one to give up or give in, but last night I broke down. I try to do live right, respect others and treat others the way I want to be treated, but I cannot get out of the hole without falling back. I have not started to pay my monthly expenses for lack of $. I appreciate the life lessons I have learned, but will I ever be happy without worrying about what tomorrow will bring. I need assistance, encouragement, strength and belief everything will be ok. Still, I try my best to help others simply because I know how it feel to need. Just last week at the grocery store, the lady in front of me did not have enough money to pay for her groceries. At first I was not paying attention to what was going on until I start noticing how much time it was taking to check her out. She started going through her buggy, trying to decide what she could have taken off her bill. I did not know the lady, never seen her in my life. I gave her a twenty dollar bill which covered the balance she did not have. She tried to give me the balance back, I told her Merry Christmas, take your boys to McDonald's. She waited outside the store for me, crying, thanking me for helping her. I lifted a burden off her shoulders for a short while and she told me I was her angel. "no, I'm just human with understanding." I wondered then and now why I gave her the $ when I need assistance myself. I can only pray and believe things will get better for me. One thing is for sure, I do not regret helping her. It does not matter how bad you are doing, it is always someone who is doing a lot worse.

 in response to Starshine...   Thanks Starshne. I really appreciate everything you have done. From research material to giving me hope. You are in CA and things are totaly different than Alabama. At least you have a chance. I have been responsible my entire life and at one time working three jobs, a parent and school full time still taking care of mine. Now I need assistance and I cannot find anyone or anything to help. And to top it off, only short-term assistance, until my pay check start. It is hard, so hard to continue pounding the pavement and on the phone for hours trying to find something, anything. I was thinking, if I found an apartment, I would have a roof, but no bed not even a cup for water. I was alway told the lord will not put anything on you, you cannot handle. I am beginning to think he have too much faith in me. Again, thanks starshine.

 in response to Starshine...   Got it. My first apartment was HUD and I loved it. But that was 18 or 19 years ago. I am sure things have changed by now. When the manager at that time was transferred to another area, everything went down hill. Everything was based on my income, which at that time was not very much at all. I could not get ahead. When my income changed, I had to report it which lead to an increase of the rent. It maxed out at 475 per month. I bought my first house and have not looked back. The housing authority here is totally different. They take applications for each program at different times. And if you do not have kids or not disabled, there is no way you will get a HUD Apartment. Are you required to have children in CA? I have realized every state is different and regardless there is a waiting list. I am beginning to have doubts of finding anything.

Starshine,
You posted to contact or visit the management office of each apartment building that interest you. But search for subsitized apartment below. Are you saying, search from a subsitized apartment list and contact the office OR find an apartment and ask the management office do they accept assistance from HUD? Also, you posted to contact more than one agency because of the waiting list. I called the housing authority here and was told I need to contact the office in the city I will be relocating. I am little lost because how can I apply to more than one agency based on what they told me last week? Based on what you know, was I mislead? Finally, I did not qualify for any type of assistance here based on my income. At the moment, I receive unemployment in which I know I will qualify but then again when I start working, my income will be a HUGE difference. If I am fortunate enough to receive help from HUD will I be responsible for reporting my income change within a few weeks or will everything remain the same until recertification which I am thinking maybe 6 months to a year

 in response to SingleMom0228...   Did you ask is there a certain criteria needed to advance you to the top of the list? When I applied, (years ago) I told them my situation which was I was being put out with no place to go. My name went to the top because of my situation. Don't give up. Call them Monday and ask them if there is any program which can assist you. The help is out there, you just have to find it. Google domestic violence/help to get out. Surely there are 800 numbers, call them and ask for assistance. Walk by faith, not by sight. Stay prayed up and everything will work out.

 in response to SingleMom0228...   I guess it depends on where you live because it is well known in this area. Call DHR, on Monday tell them your situation making sure to tell them everything and ask if there is any program in your county to assist domestic violence victims and their children. You did get something accomplished, child care. There has to be something available in your area to help you. Have you called HUD? Make that one of your first call on Monday. Maybe you could call the local hospial ER and tell them you are a victim of domestic violence, and you are trying to find a way out. What do they do when an abused victim need treatment? Is there any programs available for these victims if so ask for the phone number and give them a ring

Thanks for the resources. I have one job (with the government), just waiting on my paperwork and being graded by my peers which determine my base pay and start date. I was told by HR the first three days are basic orientation, which will start on a Monday. I am on pins and needles because I cannot find housing and I have no idea of my start date. I am so thankful to have employment (even though I haven't started). 

 in response to SingleMom0228...   How long are you going to let someone dictate your life? Right now, you are not living only existings. You can do bad and better by yourself. Everything you mentioned you do not have is really nothing, everything can be handled? Safe Place is a start and I know those people will help you because you are in a typical abusive case of domestic violence. You will survive but only you can make the first move. I have no doubt safe place will help you. Have you called them and explained your situation? I am positive you will find your way. Walk with faith, not by sight

 in response to SingleMom0228...   At least you will have a life to start over. If you stay with this man, someone is going to get hurt. Don't you think your children deserve better? Feel what you have to, cry if necessary and get OUT!!!! This is 2011 and you are letting a sorry person dictate your life. You got yourself into this, now get yourself out for a better life for your children. Domestic violence and your children seeing what is going on, it's telling them it is ok to be treated like crap. When you get sick and tired, things will change. Change come when you get fed up. You can do it, put one foot in front of the other and take one day at a time, one step at a time.

You have to decide what is more important a roof over your head, food to eat OR homeless wondering where your next meal will come from. The best care if from mom, but mom need to be realistic and make the most of the time you have with your children. DON'T HAVE ANY MORE CHILDREN UNTIL YOU CAN SUPPORT THEM WITHOUT ADDITIONAL STRESS!!!! Are you living in HUD housing which can be based on your income? If you go to school, call DHR and see if they have a self sufficient program which help you during school, some have received a vehicle and they also get help with daycare expenses. Also any money from school will not be counted toward your income. With that in mind, how about some work study hours? Only get paid once a month, but it will help. Also, have you thought about a student loan? Put yourself on a tight budget, do not buy anything unnecessary, shop at thrift stores and you can make it. It will be tough, but you can, I did. Each state is different, you just have to find out what is out there and claim it to help yourself become a better person.

 in response to Akashagirl...   Right now, you need to let nursing become a long-term goal. There is no way you can give 100% to school with everything you have going on. I am a nurse and I know what you are facing trust me. First things are first and that is housing. Have you tried the Salvation Army, HUD Housing, local churches? Call DHR and talk with them, surely there are programs which can help you especially since you left an abusive relationship. Keep your head up, get on the phone and be determined to find a home for your and your children.

 in response to SingleMom0228...   Look, you need to get out now. Run and do not look back. I do not know what state you are in, but I have no doubt there are places like Safe Place for abuse mothers and their children. At Safe Place, they will assist you with temporary housing, transportation and most importantly give you a safe place to stay. Call DHR in your county NOW!!!!!! GET OUT!!!!!!! RUN!!!!If necessary, call the police and have them with you as you get your clothes. ONLY GET NECESSARY THINGS AND RUN!!! Have you heard of the movie The Burning Bed? Things are not going to get better, only worse.You deserve better and your children deserve a chance at becoming the best person they can without the domestic violence. GET OUT BEFORE HE TRY TO KILL YOU OR YOUR CHILDREN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!